Wednesday, August 02, 2006
Purity Download: Tip 5
The following is excerpted from Sex is Not the Problem (Lust Is) and is the fifth of a seven-part series on resisting internet porn.
5. Redefine “over the line”
(it’s not the edge of the cliff)
Jared had been struggling with temptation to look at on-line porn for a week. He’d been testing his resolve by visiting somewhat questionable sites and the urge to indulge kept growing. Unfortunately, he didn’t tell his accountability partner what was happening. Instead he battled in secret. A week later, after he “really messed up” and spent two hours browsing porn sites, he finally called his accountability partner.
Do you see the problem? Jared’s definition of “over the line” when it comes to sin is right at the edge of the cliff. That means that when he finally confesses he’s already fallen.
When it comes to accountability, I think it’s important to back up our definition of messing up on-line. We need to involve others much earlier in the process of temptation. So confess when you’re dabbling with somewhat questionable sites (or okay sites with provocative ads or other content). Share when you’re spending too much time on-line. Make these behaviors your definition of crossing the line so your friends can pray for you and challenge you long before you slip off the edge of temptation into sin. I like what Thomas Watson once wrote: “A godly man will not go as far as he may, lest he go further than he should.”
Time for your comments. How would this tip change the way you interact with your accountability partner? What does "redefining the line" look like for you?